7 Principles for Making Marriage Work1. Enhance Love Mapso Develop a deep knowing about each other
o Demonstrate interest in each others lives and priorities
2. Nurture Fondness and Admirationo Develop awareness of the things about your partner that you admire
o Fondness and admiration are antidotes for contempt
o Re-write the history and update the philosophy of your marriage
3. Turn toward each other in stead of away
o Make deposits into emotional bank accounts
o Engage in stress-reducing conversations
o Be on your partners side
4. Let your partner influence youo Learn to accept influence
o Power sharing
o Emotional intelligence
5. Solve your solvable problemso Soften your start up
o Learn to make and receive repair statements
o Sooth yourself and each other
o Compromise
o Be tolerant of each others faults
6. Overcome Gridlocko Moving from gridlock to dialogue
o Give voice and share your dreams
o Steps to resolutions
o Become a dream detective
o Make peace
7. Create shared meaningo Family rituals
o Align roles and expectations
o Share personal goals
o Symbols: create, define and share
