Sunday, May 24, 2015

Intimacy Based Therapy- David Schnarch

What is Intimacy Based Therapy?
* Belief that marriage is a “people growing” machine
* Belief that sexual expression holds the highest potential for personal integrity and differentiation
* Supports expression of eroticism and deals positively with the anxiety of disconnection
* Belief in learning to develop sexual potential and intimacy

What is a crucible?A vessel made of a refractory substance such as graphite or porcelain, used for melting materials at high temperatures.

What is a sexual crucible?We learn to develop sexual potential and intimacy by
* Leaving our comfort zones
* Confronting our sense of self
* Confronting our anxiety
* Confronting our own discomfort with change and growth
* Confronting our differentiation

In doing this we create a “sexual crucible” a highly non-reactive container where igniting exploration of self and differences through conflict promotes change, growth, and true intimate connection with another- something altogether different than existed before; more than the sum of its parts.

Goals of therapy:* Look at sexuality as a window to examine current adjustment, life concerns, and unresolved emotional development.
* Construct and hold a crucible of two interlocking conflicts in the relationship to work toward the enhancement of differentiation and intimacy in the relationship.
* Address the multidimensional aspect s of the problem with an isomorphic intervention (isomorphic= making change since one area creates change in another).